For a little over two years, I’ve been running this blog, writing what I could come up with, which usually took my posts all over the place, never really sticking to one consistent topic, while trying to figure out what exactly I want to do with this blog.
If you’re still subscribed after all of this, thank you so much for your patience!
(Or maybe you enjoy my random ramblings. That’s cool, too!)
Although I still haven’t exactly niched down–or picked a focus at all, things about the way I share with the world are gradually becoming clear to me, and there are a few changes I’m trying to consciously make at the moment, so I’ll take this update to talk about those.
Changes to the blog:
As you may know, I’ve been thinking about separation between the creative side of me and the parent side of me. I mentioned my own need for some of that distinction in my New Year’s and Creative Goals blog posts, but in addition, I’ve been thinking about whether it’s even appropriate to talk so much about my son here.
(My last post, “The Parents’ Social Media Dilemma: Is it okay to post about kids online?” addresses my torn feelings on this.)
I’m still working out the plan going forward, but for now, there are a few things I know for sure:
- I will no longer be including actual photos of Kj (my son) in any of my blog posts.
- The parenting stories I choose to write should be more about the parent/mom experience, and less revealing about Kj himself.
- I also won’t have as many detailed stories about him, if at all, and when I write about my parenting experience in a way that includes stories about Kj, he will be allowed to ask me to take them down if he chooses to, when he’s able to articulate what he wants shared about himself.
A similar change is that I’ve set the family Instagram to private, and made a new, separate Instagram account for art and blogging related things.
The new account is @RebeccaJoAnthony on Instagram.
Speaking of social media, I’m in the process of contemplating what, if anything, to do going forward with my Facebook page. I’m very inactive on Facebook.
Should I improve the way I do Facebook, or drop it all together?
I haven’t decided yet.
One more thing: These “Update” posts will be done differently, too. (and less often!)
Changes to how update posts will happen:
For a long time, I’ve been posting an Update post about every other month.
This made sense to do at a time when Kj was younger, and the changes were constant. I also still thought I might begin telling more extended family about this blog, and family wants to know about Kj more than anything else. I’m no longer trying to do that with this blog. (It’s just too scary, and for some reason, it’s easier to write for strangers. I don’t know why; it shouldn’t make sense, but that’s a topic for another day.)
The last few updates have felt a little redundant. While I was writing them, I was trying hard to come up with new things to share. Sometimes, this resulted in getting long-winded on single topics. Josh and I don’t always have a lot of new things happening in our professional lives to talk about, which meant the bulk of the family portion of the update was spent talking about Kj.
Now that I’m making an effort to protect Kj’s privacy a little more, I’m going to have to say less about him in the updates.
This change alone will make the “Update” posts shorter.
On top of the vagueness and/or oversharing in my recent “Update” posts, I’ve also been feeling like sometimes, it takes me longer to get to a different post I want to write, if one of the posts is an update as often as that, and if we’re being honest, those of you reading probably didn’t want that many updates.
Until something changes resulting in the need for more updates, I’ve decided to extend the amount of time between the posts designated as “Update” posts.
Starting now, and for the foreseeable future, instead of a new update every other month, there will only be new “Update” posts quarterly. This one is for March, so that means the other “Update” posts this year will be in June, September, and December.
My “Update” posts in the past have always had a vague pattern of talking about what I’ve been up to, the family update, and anything I wanted to say about the blog.
For future “Update” posts, I’m going to be using a more consistent template, and hopefully, this will remind me not to get to long winded.
The new “Update” format will be as follows:
- Blog Updates
I’ll start with the stuff most relevant to readers of this blog, to make it easier to skip all the rest of what’s in these posts, in case that’s what you want to do.
Blog updates may include:
– Changes, if any, to my blog or site
– A list of recent posts
– A peek at upcoming posts (if I’m actually planning ahead enough to tell you what my next several posts will be)
- Other Creative Updates
In this section, I’ll talk a little about other writing or art things I’m doing, if there’s anything new to share, and give an assessment (for accountability’s sake) of how I’m doing on all those goals I set for myself at the beginning of this year since the last update.
- Family Update
This will be the part where I mention an appropriate amount of what Josh and Kj have been up to.
This month’s update:
(I’ll be keeping the info in the new format extra brief this time, since I’ve already taken up a lot of space in this post.)
There’s not much to say that hasn’t already been said above.
One possible change I’m considering is making my own images to go with my blog posts, instead of using stock photos and/or simple shapes and text put together in Canva.
Other than the creative goals and New Year’s posts, here are the blog posts since my last update:
- Potty Training is Hard for Everyone
(a talk about how kids might feel during the potty training process)
- Parents: Self Care is Not for You
(in which I argued that other people in the family benefit when parents practice self care)
- Realistic Self Care Ideas for Parents
(because I couldn’t tell parents to practice self care without offering some easy-to-execute ideas)
- The Parent’s Social Media Dilemma: Is it okay to post about kids online?
(the reflection on internet sharing that prompted some of the blog changes I mentioned above)
While I pontificate on whether to make my own art for all blog posts, I will be making images for a few of my old posts, to test the process out. So, in case you go back to old posts in my blog, just a heads-up that some of the pictures may change.
I realize that I’ve been not-so-recently tagged to do some of those blogger-tag posts. I promise, I didn’t forget. My next couple of posts will be catching up on those.
After that, it’s time to continue working on this blog’s voice. There aren’t a lot of set-in-stone plans for future posts.
One thing I will say, is that I’m working on the idea of starting a series called “Noticing Humans,” which I’m excited to start. 🙂
Creative Goals Update
This time, I won’t go point-by-point through all of my goals, both for the sake of time, and because I’ve still been adjusting to trying to fit everything into my schedule.
I’ve finally been reading more often, usually at least the three days per week I specified in my goals.
I’ve been doing a lot of learning, too. A slight change to the plan of learning to draw: Instead of waiting until I finish the whole Udemy course before cracking open the anatomy book, I decided to do lessons from both, because some upcoming projects have come up that will benefit from skills I hope to learn from the anatomy drawing book.
He’s getting closer to becoming what we might be able to call “potty trained” and gradually becoming more independent in the bathroom. Public bathrooms are still a struggle, but there’s a visible light at the end of the tunnel.
On a similar note, we’ve finally been looking for a preschool in the area for Kj to attend. He’s missed going to school, so he’s excited to get back to it, even if it’s not the same school he went to before. Hopefully he’ll still be excited when he realizes that his new school, unlike the old school, will have the expectation that he use the bathroom at school.
After trying and struggling with game jams, Josh is taking a break from competitive game development, and is working on a project that is not for a jam.
In this process, he’s also been reading and learning even more about game development.
I’m going to be honest:
There’s not much to say here.
I’ve been busy with Kj, and with trying to work on my creative endeavors, including this blog and the other ones I mentioned above, so I’ll spare you talking about myself any more.
This has been a long update, including updates on how updates will happen. If you’re still reading, I’m envious of your attention span!
I hope you all have a lovely spring!
(The snow is starting to melt here! Yay!)
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